Loneliness – Agendas That Starve Relationships

Submerged somewhere deep within us are a host of potent agendas; some latent and others quite obvious. We believe that we’re driven far more by other things that are much nobler and chivalrous. Yet in reality we’re chockfull of a bunch of agendas that both dominate and direct a bunch of what we do. We would be wisely astute to understand that those agendas have a potent and powerful driving force to them that dictates more of our lives than we realize.

When our agendas drive our relationships, those relationships become terribly self-serving and horribly one-sided. The mutual give and take that is a fundamental hallmark of healthy relationships is all but lost. In time, the relationship either goes away leaving us lonely, or becomes something so much less than a relationship that we are just as lonely as if it had gone away. It might be time to be honest about our agendas, inventory the whole of them, and inventory their impact on our relationships.